Is There a Doctor In The House?

He kissed my bare bottom. His name was Kenny. He had brown hair and red freckles, carried a stethoscope and a brand new pack of Smurf Band-Aids. My first sexual encounter with role-play, I experienced at the tender age of nine. I've had quite a thing for doctors ever since.

I believe that we all have our first sexual awakening through the guise of role-playing when we are just young kids. As we grow up, we become more sexual and less imaginative, although some of us do manage to keep both as equal bedfellows. For instance, I’ve always secretly thought that trekkies and people into science fiction, war games, video games, fantasy and pretty much anything else considered “nerdy”, must be very hard to keep up with in the bedroom. Just imagine the scenarios, story lines and characters they must come up with! There are also people who are just plain kinky and weird when it comes to role-play. We all know someone who has had a partner ask them to do some pretty weird stuff during sex. Or at least we say it is someone else when we tell the story because we don’t want anyone to know that it actually happened to us. I have a friend who once dated a guy who was into wearing women's panty hose. Apparently he would tear a hole in the crotch, put on a pair of heels and… that’s just around the spot where the story ends because I wasn’t about to let her tell me any more.

Obviously what floats some boats doesn't do it for all folks. While I consider myself a very imaginative person, I can't say I've partaken in a great deal of role-play, nothing out of the ordinary anyway. I do however, keep all my Halloween costumes, just in case I need them in the future, for some unforeseen reason. Role-playing can be both fun and healthy. I believe that men and women have an equal footing regarding role-play. While we may have a lot of different sexual preferences, I think that both sexes generally share the same sexual fantasies, excluding of course, the one that has you, your gal and her best friend rolling around in a vat of yellow Jello. Sorry guys, this one is yours alone. Both sexes however, equally want to either dominate or be dominated during sex, which is really what role-playing is all about isn’t it? Now, go get on your spandex Tarzan costume and I’ll try to find my grass skirt, lei and coconuts. You'll just have to figure out what game it is that I prefer to play….written by Brooke Mullins



As I lay on the bed in a Cowardly Lion costume with my tamer standing above me, I soon realized that this was probably not the vision that L. Frank Baum had when he wrote the Wizard of Oz. In fact, this probably would have been interesting if we hadn’t been laughing like Hyenas at the silliness we had created.

I’ve always found that role playing is a tremendous waste of effort and honestly, not very fun. If I’m going to put that much time into doing something, I prefer to inject some romance into my relationship. I’ll make a nice dinner while mixing in some candles and massages. Role playing is a very delicate operation. It requires planning – which by its very nature I find unromantic. Then it requires participation, which is always a tricky issue considering where we may find ourselves mentally and emotionally at any given time. When the perfect storm comes together – sure it can be a fleeting thrill – but all the effort is rarely matched with the intensity and intimacy that is craved for in a satisfying romantic evening.

It can be enjoyable and exciting to step outside yourself sometimes and play out some control and power fantasies through role playing. I’ve just always found it to be more satisfying to simply communicate effectively and leave the costumes in the closet.

So what makes us want to fulfill our partners’ desire to not be ourselves for the evening? I think it’s just another example of trying to please each other while not looking at what we need ourselves. As hard as you might try, you can’t be someone else. It has nothing to do with creativity. In fact, given all the effort and planning - it’s not creative at all. You want role playing?? Try playing the girl we fell for in the first place. We are with you for a reason and it’s not so you can play a lion and make us tame you. That’s just silly and completely unnecessary. When I am feeling romantic and wanting to have hot, passionate sex – I don’t want to have to remember my lines or need cue cards.

Now, I do realize the joy that can come from role playing and it has been a fun, yet fleeting thrill for me before – but when it’s all said and done, it’s the same girl I end up in bed with no matter how we got there. So put away the mailwoman costume and the leash because this dog isn’t biting... written by Andrew Jensen

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