Strip Clubs: Topless Paradise?

Being a freelance writer, my days are sometimes full of work . . . and sometimes they’re full of daytime television. This lifestyle had led me to the conclusion that strip clubs are ruining American relationships. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve watched the judge ask the woman to tell her side of the story and the first thing out of her mouth is “Well, he kept putting the rent money in Tasty D-light’s g-string down at the Pussycat Lounge.” And then the guy comes back with, “Well, Tasty D-light is the only one showing me a little love in this world and at least she cares about me.” Then after a while of them fighting and going back and forth, the judge finally grants someone child support and custody of the trailer.

I think the blatant sexuality combined with a dancers’ approach is what draws men to strip clubs. It’s liberating to see someone that in tune with their body and what it can do. Twirling around on the pole or taking your outfit off with your teeth, all while still looking sexy, isn’t easy. Big hair and big boobs aside, some of the most empowered women I’ve met have been exotic dancers. Still, most women don’t like the idea of their man spending his night stuffing dollars down some girls’ panties. I guess we wonder why our man has to spend the night paying for the privilege of staring at some other woman’s tits. Are my tits not enough? Hell, at least they’re free to look at! I advise all women to get some girlfriends together and go down to your local strip club one night. Buy a drink and take in the scene. That bevy of beautiful women you imagined, all ready to take your husbands and boyfriends away? Not there. The lights are low in the club for reason; not all those girls are all that hot. And they more than likely don’t want anything but the money in these guys’ hand.

Guys aren’t like us. They can’t call their best friend, eat a pound of chocolate and watch Lifetime when they need a break from the world. At the strip club, these guys aren’t ugly, unemployed or supposed to be fixing the toilet in the guest bathroom. They can pretend that they are James Bond or Brad Pitt or whoever it is that walks into bars and has beautiful women shake their tits at him. It’s almost therapeutic. And then they come home feeling like the big man on campus, and get to fixing that toilet in the guest bathroom....written by P.S. Jones



In a man's world, strip joints rule. What could be better... sexy women willing to get naked for the simple act of slipping a dollar bill in their garters. For a few bucks more, a lap dance can get you even closer. That's paradise! Unfortunately, in the Politically Correct world that we live in, topless bars are often vilified by wives or girlfriends who literally detonate at the very thought of their husbands or boyfriends entering the same zip code as a bar featuring live nude girls. Many guys actually shudder at the thought of returning to their "little woman" with the "smell" of stripper on their clothes. I know, I was that guy once, and the fear of being discovered and the thermonuclear holocaust that follows was chilling enough to keep me far away from any titty joint.

Why are strip joints such an emotional issue? Is the reality that a man might want to "look" and even "lust" for a sexy dancer with a surgically enhanced top that disturbing to a woman? Is it exploitation of women to have them caged in a bar dancing and getting naked? NO!!! Lust is a human condition. Lust for a young, nubile, naked dancer is perfectly normal and a sign that your man has a healthy sex drive. Wives and girlfriends simply need to channel that lust in a positive way and supercharge their own love life with their boyfriend or husband. A couple of hours watching hot babes can often bring him back to you hotter than a sailor on shore leave.

In fact, a wife or girlfriend might want to accompany their man to the topless bar. If you have never done it, you will be surprised how much fun women have with the strippers. The dancers welcome them, fawn all over them, and always make them feel special. In addition, you might even learn a lot about a man's fantasies and even some of your own.

Now the exploitation issue... Who is exploiting who? What other job do you need absolutely no skills, no training, and no special talent and you can still walk away with a couple of hundred dollars a night? Topless dancers are savvy adults, and they have chosen to earn their living tossing their bra across a stage for dollar bills. It's a great way for them to make a helluva lot of money compared to other jobs.

So they win... the guys win... and if the wives and girlfriends relax, they win too....written by Cliff Hodges

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Results of Sex Poll

After 2 weeks of polling our readers on how many dates a couple should go on before having sex, here are the results:

49% agree that 3-5 dates is sufficient
21% say 2 dates is enough
15% think 5 or more dates is perfect
15% believe that one date is all you need

Thanks to all those who voted!

Open Highway or One Way Street

You start talking about anal sex and most women start to get nervous. You know why? Because at some point all of us have heard those oh so romantic words whispered during lovemaking, “Can I put it in your butt?” (Don’t get me started on the ones who don’t even ask!) Blame it on the curiosity or that ubiquitous anal scene in every porno, but at some point, you’re gonna be asked to participate in booty sex. It’s at this crossroads that you determine whether or not you’re an “up-the-butt-girl”.

Now I know all the reasons why both men and women like giving and getting anal sex. It feels tighter around your penis and some women even experience more intense orgasms. It feels powerful and dominant to be the one giving anal sex to someone else. It’s exciting and new. But I just can’t help but wonder why all this adventure and fun never really seems… all that fun. The few times I’ve tried anal sex, images of prison gang rapes have danced around my mind. My partner has always murmured “Just relax and it will be easier. You’ll really enjoy it if you just relax.” But my butt keeps telling me “No, don’t relax! As soon as you relax, he’s gonna stick that thing in!!! Run, bitch, run!” And the few times I’ve ignored my natural instinct and gone through with it, I’ve been really uncomfortable. How can you feel sexy when every time he pulls out, you feel like something brown and unpleasant is going to come out with his dick?

The fact is that no matter how many women out there enjoy being an “up-the-butt-girl”, there are still more than a few of us who don’t. The whole point of sex is to have fun and orgasm. And how can you have fun if you’re worried you’re going to take a shit on somebody? Or be in pain for two days later? Over the years, I’ve realized I can’t. And if that ruins your little fantasy, then so be it. I’m just not cut out for the anal act. My booty may be big but its hole is not. This is a one-way, exit only zone. If you’re looking for the entrance, check around front....written by P.S. Jones



Penetration is great! Anal penetration is amazing. When a woman surrenders her "rosebud" to me, I get more excited than when she spreads her legs and puts out the "welcome mat". Why is anal sex better? For me, the rush is both physical and mental. Physically, a woman's sphincter is often tighter than her vagina. As a result the pressure, friction, and sensation of plunging in and out of her netherworld can be more intense and maximize my climax. Mentally, being given an open door to the rear entrance leads us into a taboo act that makes me feel wonderfully filthy and lets me know that my partner is as wild, open minded, and kinky as I am..

Face it... How many of us can recall the name of every woman we have had sex with? But anal sex??? That's another story... I can still recite their name, phone number, and favorite hobbies - years later!!!

Now, it can be difficult to find the elusive woman who happens to enjoy anal sex. Unfortunately, societal taboos, misguided religion, poor toilet training, and fear of the unknown make many women reject this form of sex mentally as some form of perverse, kinky, unspeakable sin. Trust me... it is no sin. It should be a sacrament, but it can be next to impossible to change some women's mind about it. Yet, there are women who say it hits the "G" spot better when you approach it from the back door, and their climaxes are much more furious! Just the possibility of this makes it worth a try.

What is everyone's problem with the ass anyway? Why do we assume it's a one way exit? Get over it!!!!! Some guys freak out if a woman so much as touches their uptight, clenched sphincter. There is no reason on earth that guys should always be the "pitcher". Many women have fantasies of slipping on their strap on and violating their guy in the most forbidden way. This is great! Sometimes it is a welcome relief to surrender yourself to a woman and let her be the aggressor.

I say, when it comes to anal sex... Have at it... Throw caution to the wind and open the back door. It doesn’t matter if you are a man or a woman, open your mind and discover a whole new world of sensual pleasure....written by Cliff Hodges

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Sexual Etiquette

I have to confess, I've slept with a guy on the first date. This has actually happened on several separate occasions. Most of the guys, I'd say three out of four, have turned into substantial relationships. One of them turned into an never-ending exercise in ridicule from my roommates, and essentially ALL of my friends. His name was Rip, the bisexual sailor. [No, I'm not even slightly kidding.]

All social situations have general rules of etiquette that are, at the very least, helpful to be aware of with cautionary attentiveness. Due to the time period in which rules of etiquette were conceived and their unwavering stability in the face of change, they are not always accurate as a set of social governance practices. Also, social etiquette does not necessarily cover the dirty details of sexuality. Teen flicks and media at large attempts to fill the gap, but both are somewhat hopeless. One really cheesy nugget of wisdom from the preceding sources is "why would he buy the cow when he can't get the milk for free?" Others tout a three date rule for sexual intercourse - after three dates, you can "do it." I don't feel the topic can be nailed down so easily.

I introduce to you, Sexual Etiquette, a term which I use to loosely define what is acceptable and unacceptable in regards to sex. Some issues are easy. Obviously rape is on the "definitely-not-an-option" list while making love to your life partner is on the "approved" side. Let's focus on a more vague issue and my favorite of all awkward moments- Sleeping together on the first date.

As far as sexual etiquette is concerned, sleeping together on the first date is a grey area. Everyone seems to have an opinion on the subject and they rarely match up. As far as perceptions are concerned, there are definitely different rules for women than there are for men. Women are historically expected, largely due to religious dogmas and socialization, to not enjoy or seek sexual relations. If a woman sleeps around, she is a slut - which is a label no lady will self-apply or want applied from a third party. When women want to have sex with a man on a first date, they have to balance their animalistic desires with the perceptions of them after the deed is done. Historically, men are expected to be virile and spread their seed as much as possible. Therefore, the greater the number of sexual interactions, the more a man is a man. For men ages 16-25, sexual encounters are the height of being human. Men also need to have little concern over social perceptions.

When we consider the two aforementioned dogmas, we think that women definitely get the short end of the stick. This is not true. For sexually liberated women, it tends to be easier to have a one-night-stand than it is for men. If a guy goes on a date with a girl and he is not a complete ass, he understands that sexual aggression is not attractive. Also, times are changing. People of our generation are more likely to understand that women as well as men have sexual needs. For the better or worse of our culture, many long-held sexual generalizations are going the way of the buffalo. Just look at "Sex in the City," which portrays women as sexually exploitive as men.

Despite your gender, it's best to size a person up before having sex with them. One of my friends, an artist by trade, is completely against first date sex. This isn't because of the dogmas nor perceptions. He hates sex on the first date because it generally comes on the heels of intoxication. When people are drunk they tend to have less social inhibitions. Thus, rampant drunken sex and a spewing forth of emotions. As an artist, my friend has his feelings hurt a little more readily than most. When a drunk lady friend tells him that she loves him or that he's the best she ever had, he reluctantly believes her. When she wakes up in the morning and regrets her decision, he's left with a bruised heart and/or ego. Since this happened on multiple occasions, he's implemented a stone-cold-sober-middle-of-the-afternoon first sexual experience policy with any new partner. He also mentioned having floodlights on so they could see, in plain view, every flaw.

I realize the floodlights are too excessive for most, but essentially he's found what works best for him. Some people are built emotionally and physically able to throw caution to the wind. Some people need a layer of steel-clad armor to protect their hearts and minds. We all need to find where we are in the spectrum and act accordingly.

Written by Anna Z

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To Shave or Not To Shave

Do you like the jungle or the desert? If you watch vintage porno from back in the 60's and 70's, it seems like everyone was prancing around with a thick mound of pubic hair. Then along came the era of the totally shaved pubic region, or the "Brazilian" which leaves just a neat, little landing strip of hair above the vagina.

As someone who started out in the 70's and 80's, it used to be exciting to finally feel my face meet the fuzzy jungle that guarded the promised land. It was at that point you were pretty assured of getting in the gate and starting the party. Now, however, the "state of the art" seems to be shaved or at least trimmed very fine and the thick pubic hair jungle is an endangered species. Men have not escaped the question, "To Shave or Not To Shave" either. Depending on my potential partners at the time and their preferences, my pubic area is always in a dynamic state between smoothness and furry. I have been with women who are extremely "hair averse" and for them, I am happy to shave down. One of the nice things about being hairless down there is that it makes an erection look a lot larger when it is poking from your groin rather than a jungle of hair.

There are still women, especially in the BDSM and fetish world, who enjoy the opportunity to pull the pubic hair. This may sound like a painful ordeal, but for so many, it is just part of the pleasure. Of course, for men, going down on a woman with a shaved pubic region can often result in "beard burn" if the shave is not terribly close. What I recommend for this is to offer to shave it for her. The intimacy you will share while shaving is very sensual, and before you shave away that last stroke, the promised land is usually steaming, moist, and ready for entry.

Most women I have encountered over the last 10 years are shaved smooth, close, and sexy. This is a turn on for me because I never end up with pubic hairs in the mouth and I also feel I have a much better touch and an easier time finding the clitoris.
As a man, I am pretty ambivalent as to whether my pubic hair is grown out or shaved. If the woman likes it shaved... I shave it... If she prefers it with hair, I grow it out. The key being that it is important to make the visual experience "down there" as inviting, enticing, and exciting to your partner as possible. I must admit that I do prefer a woman to be shaved. Seeing that area trimmed smooth is like a welcome mat that invites me in. It shows that she is trying to make it attractive which means she wants some attention down there.

I also find that rubbing my cheek against her smoothness and simply the act of orally adoring a "shaved altar" are activities that are more exciting to me and make me feel confident that I can do a better job down there versus dealing with the jungle. Obviously, there is no one answer as to whether you should shave your pubic area or not. The answer lies in your own personal preference and the preference of the person or persons you will be sharing it with.

So what turns you on….the desert or the jungle? Either way, it can be fun to talk about, and even more fun to experiment with.

Written by Cliff Hodges

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